Date Number #100

Finishing Strong!

We did it!  Date 100 sisters.  Hip Hip Hooray for sticking this out and praying without ceasing for our future husbands.  I am so proud of each of you for enduring the waiting.  We will continue to wait on God until He delivers the gift of love from above.  Amen?  Today Jesus and I are sitting outside by a Lake dining al fresco!  I have so much anticipation for what he is going to speak to us.  

Jesus has impressed this scripture from 2 Timothy 4:7 it says, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” We are running towards the prize dear one.  My Uncle always encouraged me with this verse as a College D1 athlete who got a run for her money running at Michigan State.  He always reminded me to live my life well and to the full.  I am grateful for his consistent prayers and encouragement.  

Do you feel like you are running forward with endurance and patience?  How can you receive more accountability or assistance in doing this?  Maybe partner up with a friend who is also in waiting?  I can tell you that this has helped me tremendously; having a prayer and accountability partner.  I want us to finish this journey strong with some power prayer over our husbands as well as focusing on gratitude for what God has done already.  

Dear Jesus~ We come before you with boldness and expectation that you are going to move.  You are my true north Father and you always lead me with your compass of direction and as a lamp to my feet.  I can sour on the heights above my fears with you on my side.  I have known the depths and the heights during this race.  It is difficult to wait and yet I know you are still saying, “Wait my child…..I’m in love with you and have the perfect plan”!  It is a solemn vow and promise that you have given us that we are given every good and perfect gift from above that comes down from the heavenly lights. Jesus I lift up my sweet, adoring husband to you and ask for you to deliver him from any and all hindrances that entangle him.  Please help him to focus on becoming the best man he can be before we are brought together.  Help me to make myself ready as your bride.  I am determined and have a ruthless trust in your provision and protection from counterfeit men.  Thank you for him, that you for his life and his story.  Thank you for the story you are currently telling me which is that he will arrive soon.  We love you ways and your decrees Father God.  Cleanse us from any sin that holds us distanced from you.  I’m letting go of anything that is not of you.  Thank you for this night and the sweetness of your presence.  It is perfect!  I pray these things in Jesus name.  

Date Number #99

Guard your Heart!

We are here sisters! Date number 99 and I couldn’t be more excited. It’s bittersweet actually because I really don’t want to be done writing these entries or having the sweetest dates with Jesus. Today Jesus and I are having a celebratory dinner at one of my favorite new restaurants. The bar is booming and I’m dressed up from being ready for a date that never happened! God’s protection is what I’m calling that scenario. It is so easy to get disillusioned when these men flake or reject us, but I’m here to encourage you! The perfect one is coming for you.

We are in Proverbs today discussing the importance of guarding your heart because from it flows the wellspring of life! Proverbs 4:23 We are going to finish this race strong dear one and press on with Jesus at the center. Apart from him we can do nothing!

Do you have a tendency to give too much of your heart too fast like me? Do you over function in relationships to compensate for your partner? Let me unpack this concept a little further. Over functioning can sometimes look like codependency or giving and giving and giving when not much is coming back in return. Under functioning involves allowing someone else to compensate for your shortcomings, behaviors and limitations. It does not serve us well to do either of these!

Sisters, let us pray for our husbands tonight and ask the Lord to heal the way he relates with himself and within his interpersonal relationships. Father God, you are in control. You are the Father of lights and the God over all living things. I know that you are more than able to shape and refine my husband and I both for your glory! Thank you for that reality! You say in the book of Job that your will will not be thwarted and I believe that. Bless my husband with your abundance today and always in Jesus name! Amen

Date Number #98

The Upside Down Kingdom

My Pastor Mark Foreman always talked about “the Upside down Kingdom” in many of his messages over the years while in San Diego.  I was often so perplexed and then one day it all made sense.  “The last shall be first, the first shall be last and few are chosen”. Matthew 20:16  Today Jesus and I are hunkered down at home before I go to my side job at the spa.  I have a hot cup o’ Joe and we are examining this concept.

Sisters, are you aware of the upside down kingdom in your life?  Do you have any examples of a time where this concept proved to be true?  I have some stories that I won’t tell here this morning in the interest of time and to keep particular parties involved confidential.  I delight in us understanding that in the Kingdom’s economy things aren’t always as we would thing they should be.  The good news is is that Abba knows best!  He has the most glorious plans for us!  We can reach out for His hope to fill us because even in the hardship of waiting He is on the throne.  I have a friend who always points me to Jesus and last year when I was calling off my engagement she kept me anchored in hope while I did the hardest thing.  I let go of my love because God asked me to.  I believe there is something better and more fitting for me now.  I didn’t then when I pulled that gorgeous ring off on October the 1st.

Ladies, I would like us to spend some time in prayer this morning specifically for our men.  That God would raise them up as leaders and that they would ARISE in strength in their inner man.  I would like us to focus on discerning wisdom and what is best for us to pray.  Let the word off of our tongues and the meditation of our hearts be pleasing to you Oh God!  For your glory and our good.

Dear jesus~I pray for my sweet husband this morning.  I lift him up before your throne of grace in full confidence of what you are doing. I come before you crying out for mercy and wisdom for what to pray for him.  I pray that you would heal his hurting heart in all ways.  I pray that you would move him along in grace in truth.  He has been through a rough season and I know you will redeem the years the locusts have eaten.  Father, have your way for you Kingdom work.  May we love the lost, the maligned, the forgotten, the invisible in your Kingdom.  WE are here for you!  I love you Jesus and I thank you for bringing us together in due time.  In your precious name, Amen!


Date Number #97

Wishing, Hoping, Thinking and Praying……

I was thinking this am about Julia Roberts in My Best friends Wedding and how she can barely admit she’s in love with her best bud in the world!  I absolutely adore that movie!  The soundtrack is really good too.  Today Jesus and I are out again early in the morning on the way to walk the bridge with my prayer partner.  I delight in praying with her as we walk the bridge and back.  Jesus is talking to me about awaiting him and awaiting his best!  He has a husband for me that was perfectly crafted and designed.  He has that for you too darling!  We are in James today and the word says, But let endurance and steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing (James 1:4). We need to accept God’s perfect timing and that he makes no mistakes.

Sister, have you been wishing and hoping and thinking and praying like me?  I am so excited for that moment that God brings us together.  I anticipate it like no other.  It gives me a joy unspeakable!  I just finished a 40 days of prayer for him with a few girlfriends and my little sister and we know that in that time that God moved.  Strongholds were broken and barriers broken down.  Do you believe that God will do whatever it takes to bring you and your love together?  Do you know that any barricade or resistance that is set up by the enemy will be taken down?

Today we are going to spend some more intentional time praying for our guys.  They need God’s healing and redemption in a variety of ways just like we do!  I would like us to focus intently on praying God’s will.  I’d like you to take a few deep breathes and get into a meditative state to pray with me.  Breathe in and breathe out slowly.  Now do it again. Now we shall pray!

Dear Jesus~Thank you for my future husband.  I await him and I await you.  I desire an intimacy with you and with him that is beyond my wildest dreams.  I am confident that you can deliver this for me in due time. Please heal him this day of any leftover wounds or pain he has in his heart.  I desire for him to be ready for me.  In your faithfulness Lord would you bring us together soon for your glory?  I love him already and have a joy in my heart that spills over!  You are a good father and an amazing deliverer.  Please help my husband to have the courage to pursue me and pursue me well.  I love you Lord and it’s in Jesus name I pray.  Amen!

Date Number #96

In Alignment for Assignment!

Well ladies, we are wrapping up the 100 dates with Jesus.  It has been a ride! It is my hope that you have enjoyed it as much as I have.  I’m still waiting for my husband, and I’m encouraged that he is coming soon!  Today we are going to talk about being in alignment with God for our assignment in this season.  He has specific things for us to do individually and we don’t want to miss it.  Colossians 3:23-24 says,

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”

May we do our work faithfully sisters.  It is our destiny to be aligned with Him in all ways.  Jesus and I are at a fabulous little breakfast place this morning and I love the people watching.  This place is booming at only 8 am in the morning.  My goal: to cook bacon like they do here.  It is spicy and sweet all at the same time.  Jesus has impressed these words into my mind the last days, be in alignment for your assignment!  Amen?

My assignment in this season is to counsel, pray for people, write and assist and consult others in their business namely the spa business.  Do you know what you are called to in this season?  Are you aware of how the Lord is moving in your life in the current season?   If not, let us pray that you would know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are in the right place.  Our times are in His hands!

I’ve been dating a little bit these last few weeks and I am happy to report that things have gotten better girls.   I have met a few GOOD men and for that I m grateful  It restores my faith in humanity that there are men who aren’t just after one thing. You know what I mean, right?  I want us to spend some time in serious prayer for our men.  WE will do that now.

Dear Jesus.  Thank you for my husband.  Thank you that he is called to assist me in ministry.  THank you that he can handle my strength. Thank you that he is not intimidated by all the things I have going on in my life.  I pray for him this day that he would be a bold, warrior lion.  I pray for his weaknesses and that in you he would be strong.  I pray we would be a brave team for your glory.  May we upset the devil and all of his little squirmy minions.  You are the victorious one Jesus.  May any blockades be broken down that would hinder us from meeting or connecting with each other.  Bring him to me Lord, in YOUR perfect timing.  Thank you and I love you more than life.  In Jesus name.  Amen!IMG_1547.jpg


Date Number #95

The Inner Voice of Love

Have you ever felt your heart swell with joy because of the love of the Father?  I had one of those experiences yesterday while walking the Ravenel Bridge.  The Holy Spirit’s presence hovering over my dear prayer partner and I was thick.  I could feel Him in the sky, the waters, His beauty emanating all around us.  After a few moments of looking at the sky and seeing angel wings, I felt Him speak,  “I am renewing your youth like the eagles.”  This word is from Isaiah 40:31 and says, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. ” Amen?  This is a good word sisters.   

The inner voice of love says, I am enough.  It says, I am self-assured in God and my identity is secure in Him.  Are you confident of who you belong to and your identity today?  If not, I want to offer you an experience.  Let us turn to the Father and ask for Him to heal our broken images of ourself.  Father, restore us to the joy and love of our salvation.

So many of us have experienced broken relationships, a loss of hope, a diminishing self-esteem, etc. and we need to be renewed like the eagles TODAY.  Would you join me in praying for this for us and our future husbands?  Today is about hope and prayer.  We commune with the Father and He will faithfully answer us.

Dear Jesus.  Today I crave and yearn to connect with you.  Thank you for the inner voice of love that is going to swell up in my heart.  I bring my brokenness before you and confess that I have had some fear about bringing it all to your altar.  I know in you is the safest place for me and the best idea for me to experience complete freedom.  I pray for my sweet husband this morning and am confident that you are healing his heart, mind and spirit as we speak.  You are crafting him just for me and your good purposes.  Father, would you deliver me from all of the resounding sadness that looms from broken relationships and previous sins.  I know I am free, but sometimes I hold onto guilt and shame.  I am so infinitely loved by you and I am thankful!  Please bless my husband today and lead us together in your perfect timing.  I also ask that you would be in his thought life.  Keep him pure for us Jesus.  Keep me pure for him Lord.  You and then he are my desire and I want to honor you above all else.  Thank you for this day.  I surrender all now and surrender to the sweet inner voice of love that heals me.  In Jesus name, Amen! IMG_6043_2 (2).jpg

Date Number #94

The Core Values of 100 Dates!

Today Jesus and are sitting at a little French Cafe and it is early in the morning.  I adore this time of the day when the rest of the world isn’t quite up and running yet.  Jesus and I have been communing on what 100 dates is all about.

Here are a few core words to ponder this morning.  100 Dates is about leadership, being women of virtue, modesty, humble Confidence, authenticity, integrity, inspiration, community influence, advocacy and empowerment.  When I stopped to really think about it I realized all these things are what my counseling practice is about.  How do you feel about things like being a woman of virtue and humble confidence?  Brennan Manning first introduced me to the idea of “humble” confidence and I delight in attempting to live that way.  It is good to live with humility and a gentle, quiet confidence.

The cornerstone scripture that I want to highlight today is Isaiah 61:1-4.  This is what we at 100 dates are all about!  It is a good calling sisters.

“The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
    because the Lord has anointed me
    to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
    to proclaim freedom for the captives
    and release from darkness for the prisoners,
 to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor
    and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,
     and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
to bestow on them a crown of beauty
    instead of ashes,
the oil of joy
    instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise
    instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness,
    a planting of the Lord
    for the display of his splendor.

They will rebuild the ancient ruins
and restore the places long devastated;
they will renew the ruined cities
that have been devastated for generations.”

Do you have a cause or mission that would do well to have a set of core values?  If not, you can even write some for your own personal journey with Abba.  Today I want us to spend some time in prayer and think about what core values we might desire in a marriage and to of course pray for our future husbands.

Dear Jesus!  Thank you for core values that help me to be clear on what I want to offer my community and ministry.  Thank you for giving me a mission and a cause.  Thank you for calling me and my future husband together for your good works and glory in your timing.  You say you will make the righteousness of my cause to shine like the noonday sun.  I thank you!  I thank you that you won’t relent until you have every bit of my heart and commitment.  You are truly my first love and priority.  I pray for my husband this day and know that he is held safely in your arms.  Thank you for the words of Isaiah and the calling to restore, rebuild and renew the ancient ruins that were previously devastated.  You are a good, good Father.  I give you this day and pray your good and perfect will over our lives.  In Jesus name, Amen!